Asking for Help
by Susan Fullmer
Why is it so frickin hard to ask for help? And why does it seem the more I actually need help, the harder it is to ask? After years of therapy, healing, and introspection, I could tell you my list of Whys. I won’t bore you with that list of why I find it difficult to ask for help. I’m sure those of you who resonate with this challenge have similar lists of your own. Let’s assume for this article, that we are all consciously on the path of healing our old emotional wounds that hold us back from healthy living. We have awareness of our blocks and we are well on our way to releasing them. All systems go! Yet, for some of us, a glitch remains. Asking for help.
First of all, realizing that we need assistance can be a hard part of this process. If this has not typically been your strong suit, look back at times when you needed help but didn’t realize it at the time. What did it look like? What did it feel like? This will help us get used to recognizing these moments in the future. Once we allow ourselves to know we need help, the next step is to simply ask. If it’s hard to ask (for any reason), do it anyway. If you don’t feel like you deserve it (for any reason), do it anyway. The more we do this, the easier it gets.
Who do we ask? Sometimes throwing spaghetti on the wall can be the best approach. Toss out calls for help and see what sticks. Help can come from surprising corners. If we predetermine where it has to come from, we limit our abundant universe and what it can provide for us.
I find the more distressed I am, the less where-with-all I have to figure out the details of what I actually need and who could possibly help me. This is, Brain Function While in Trauma 101. When we go into Fight-Flight-Freeze-Fawn Response, our creative problem solving brain takes a back seat. We can’t write poetry while fearing the saber tooth tiger. This is the way our human brain has functioned for many thousands of years. Therefore, it’s always best to have a plan before the crisis hits.
Are we limiting our requests for help from humans only? There is a vast universe of beings out there who know us and love us. If you are unfamiliar with them, learn who they are. These lovely, high-vibrational beings are respectful, evolved, fully capable, and they want to help. All we have to do is ask.
Susan Fullmer, Healer, Teacher, Mentor, Group Facilitator
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