Found In Transition
A Mother’s Evolution During Her Child’s Gender Change
Found in Transition begins on May 24, 2017, when Hassouri first learns that her fourteen-year-old, designated male at birth, is having gender dysphoria and concludes on October 26, 2018, when her now daughter legally changes her name and gender at the Santa Monica courthouse. During the seventeen months in-between, Hassouri navigates through anger, denial, and grief before eventually arriving at a place of acceptance and advocacy.
“My eyes produced a record amount of tears in the fall of 2017. Sometimes the tears were a trickle, other times a steady stream until my eyes ran dry. All I did was cry, almost nonstop,” writes Hassouri. “The anger was mostly gone. Denial was not an option anymore. All that was left to do was grieve for a child I felt I was losing.”
Found in Transition also reflects on Hassouri’s experience being an Iranian immigrant growing up as one of a handful of brown kids in a predominantly white school district in Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania. She eventually comes to realize how the insecurities she was carrying from her own past were causing her to parent with fear rather than love.
“When you’ve spent your entire life on the outside, that’s the last thing you want for your child,” writes Hassouri. “Being trans gender in the US at this time was the ultimate kind of being on the outside, and I could not help but project my own experiences and fears onto my child.”
As her daughter transitions from male-to female, Hassouri ultimately discovers her own capacity to evolve; what it truly means to parent; and how to use her voice to raise awareness on behalf of the trans gender community.
“As I came to my own acceptance and understanding of what was going, on with Ava, I went from being the one crying and seeking advice to the one listening and offering advice to other new parents,” writes Hassouri, “I had to hear the parent’s perspective from others who had gone through the same thing; that’s the reason for any of us to share our story;”
Found In Transition by Paria Hassouri, MD
• 232 pages • $25.95 • ISBN 978-1-60868-708-4
Book Release from New World Library