The Joy of Goals
by Julie Matheson
“Let yourself be silently drawn by the strange pull of what you really love. It will not lead you astray.”
~ Rumi, The Essential Rumi
Isn’t it so crazy that we sometimes need permission to love what we love and to want what we want? What we each uniquely love is what makes us who we are and is often a sign of our unique inner radiance and authenticity showing through.
It can feel lonely being the only one who has a certain goal or vision especially when it is the path less taken. If a desire taps you on the shoulder again and again, you may be the only one with that vision. That’s by design: the clarity is given directly to you to run with. It doesn’t matter if others don’t see it. It only matters that you do.
The first step is knowing what you want and allowing yourself to tap into the possibility of experiencing it. Chances are, your soul is wanting you to want it.
Where do you want to be in one year? If that’s too big a question, where do you want to be in six months? Still too big? Where do you want to be in one month? When I want to change a habit, for example, I set a 30-day goal just to see where it takes me. By the time I get to day 30, I’m on a roll and it feels good to keep going.
In my sessions with clients, we start with naming a goal. This helps guide our session by keeping us on target; and, by contrast, unearths any limiting beliefs. When you begin with the end in mind, you set the energy in motion.
Here are a few simple suggestions to help get your goal-setting juices flowing:
• Start with knowing you are enough. You do enough. You love enough. You give enough. You’re smart enough. You’re capable and resourceful enough. You are perfect just the way you are. Now, you can go anywhere from here. Starting empty is no way to start. Start with gratitude for all the goodness you already possess. From a full tank of good feelings, you can create anything.
• Make it personal. It’s easy to commit to your goal when your desire is truly personal to you and not something you are doing to gain someone else’s love or approval. The great paradox is that the more you invest in your own joy-filled pursuits, the more you have to give to the world. I’m grateful for those who risk sharing their talents. We all know how scary that can be. Make it personal and go for it.
• Don’t know what you want? Write an “I want list” whereby you simply answer the question: What do I want to have, experience, be and enjoy? Write it down, stream of consciousness, for your eyes only, and be curious to see what pops out. Once you have your list, which ones bring a tear to your eye and/or joy to your heart?
• Fall in love with your goal. When you are in love, you are floating on a different timeline, higher love is activated and working its own program through you. You have unlimited energy. Doors open. You skip over obstacles without a second glance. It’s pure magic like surfing the perfect ocean wave on a sunny day. Fall in love and let your vision fuel all that you do.
• Live as though you already have it. This doesn’t mean ignoring a real problem. It means embracing where you are now, dealing with realty, meanwhile entertaining a new exciting possibility.
• With clarity comes conviction. Often all it takes is one good goal for everything else to fall into place. When you get clear, and commit, all of life seems to rise to the occasion to honor that clarity.
• Let your goals have a beginning, a middle and an end. Enough said.
• Make time every day to enjoy your vision. Perhaps in the shower as the water is flowing or when out walking your dog, let yourself feel the joy of having what you want. What does it feel like? Step into the joy of it until the vision is living through you. It wants to. Let it.
May your goals be light and joyful and free; and may they find you in ease and grace. Give yourself open space to want what you want. Name them, dream them, step into unlimited possibility and let them express through you. Playing with possibility is what’s fun about living a human life. Without goals and intentions, how does Life know what to bring to you?
If you need help setting intentions and naming goals, reach out and let’s start writing.
Julie Matheson is a holistic mental health counselor and author. Her new book is
on Amazon in paperback, Kindle, Audible and in bookstores near you –
Lotus Flower Living: A Journaling Practice for Deep Discovery and
Lasting Peace: Untangle Your Mind and Heart Once and For All.
You may listen to the Introduction at LotusFlowerLiving.com/book.